Showing posts with label Self-Esteem. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Self-Esteem. Show all posts

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Nine Ways Successful People Defeat Stress

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Excerpts – Nine Ways:

1. Have self-compassion

2. Think about the “Big Picture”

3. Rely on routines

4. Take five (or ten) minutes to do something you find interesting

5. Add where and when to your To Do List

6. Use if-thens for positive self-talk

7. See your work in terms of progress, not perfection

8. Think about the progress that you’ve already made

9. Know whether optimism or defensive pessimism works for you

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Heidi Grant Halvorson is a rising star in the field of motivational science. She is a an expert blogger for Fast Company, WSJ.com, Forbes, The Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, as well as a regular contributor to the BBC World Service's Business Daily, the Harvard Business Review, and SmartBrief's SmartBlog on Leadership. Her writing has also been featured on CNN Living and Mamapedia.



Heidi is also Associate Director of the Motivation Science Center at the Columbia University Business School.

Thursday, June 2, 2011

The Only Thing that Really Matters - Tony Schwartz - Harvard Business Review

The Only Thing that Really Matters - Tony Schwartz - Harvard Business Review


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Think for a moment of the last time you felt triggered — pushed into negative emotions by someone or something. Here, for example, are several of my triggers: feeling taken advantage of, not getting a response to an email I've sent to someone, and not being acknowledged for good work I've done.


We move into negative emotions — what we call the "Survival Zone" in our work at The Energy Project — when we feel a sense of threat or danger.


But what is the threat exactly? Over the past decade, my colleagues and I have asked thousands of our clients to describe something that consistently triggers them and then explain why.


Remarkably, we've found that a trigger can almost always be traced to the same root cause: the feeling of being devalued or diminished by someone else's words or behavior. Consider my triggers above.


The struggle to feel valued is one of the most insidious and least acknowledged issues in organizations. Most employees are expected to check their feelings at the door when they get to work. But try as we might, we can't.


How we're feeling — and most especially whether or not we feel acknowledged and appreciated — influences our behavior, consumes our energy and affects our decisions all day long, whether we're aware of it or not.


Our core emotional need is to feel valued. Without a stable sense of value, we don't know who we are and we don't feel safe in the world.


From an evolutionary perspective, the need to be valued is primal and survival-based. Sociologist Elijah Anderson describes respect as a key to the "code of the streets" in inner cities.


"The extent to which one person can raise himself up depends on his ability to put another person down," Anderson explains. "Many inner-city young men in particular, crave respect to such a degree that they will risk their lives to attain and maintain it."


It's not much different in organizations. Across more than 200 studies of the effects of stress, researchers have found that the highest rises in cortisol levels — meaning the most pernicious "fight or flight" response — are prompted by "threats to one's social acceptance, esteem and status."


To feel valued (and valuable) is almost as compelling a need as food. The more our value feels at risk, the more preoccupied we become with defending and restoring it, and the less value we're capable of creating in the world.


Doug Conant, the outgoing CEO of Campbell Soup and coauthor of a wonderful new book, Touchpoints, is a rare example of a CEO who truly appreciates the relationship between personal value and the bottom line.


Over the past decade, Conant has spent at least an hour a day writing between 10 and 20 handwritten notes to people in his company — welcoming new hires, thanking employees for their contributions, and congratulating leaders for specific accomplishments.


"Toughness on issues, tenderness with people," is Conant's mantra.


Great leaders, I'm convinced, are sensitive to people's deep need to feel valued because they recognize the same need — and the experience of vulnerability it prompts — in themselves.


When Conant took over as Campbell's CEO in 2001, the company's employee engagement scores were among the worst of any Fortune 500 company Gallup had ever polled. For every two engaged employees, one was disengaged.


Gallup's gold standard for companies is 12 engaged employees for every 1 who is disengaged. Today, Campbell's ratio is 17 to 1. Since Conant took over, the company's sales and earnings growth has consistently outperformed the majority of food companies in the S&P, as well as the S&P 500 itself.


Of course, there still aren't many leaders like Conant, so what do you do if you don't feel valued in your organization? The answer is to take the matter into your own hands. It's not the other person's behavior that triggers you, after all, but rather the way you interpret that behavior, and how it makes you feel about yourself.


That's actually good news, because it suggests you're not a helpless victim. Rather than focusing attention on the other person when you feel triggered, try turning your attention inward.


First quiet your body and defuse the trigger by taking a deep breath. Next, ask yourself these questions: "Why am I feeling my value is at stake here, and is it really?" Finally, consider how you can hold onto your value without attacking the value of the person you feel threatened by. Blame merely keeps the trigger and the negative emotion alive.


Our challenge is always to reconnect to our own core value — even when someone else's criticism cuts deep. What that requires, first and foremost, is compassion for ourselves.




Tony Schwartz is the president and CEO of The Energy Project and the author of Be Excellent at Anything. Become a fan of The Energy Project on Facebook and connect with Tony at Twitter.com/TonySchwartz and Twitter.com/Energy_Project.




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http://dreamlearndobecome.blogspot.com This posting was made my Jim Jacobs, President & CEO of Jacobs Executive Advisors. Jim also serves as Leader of Jacobs Advisors' Insurance Practice.

Friday, March 11, 2011

The Right Way to Respond to Failure - Peter Bregman - Harvard Business Review

The Right Way to Respond to Failure - Peter Bregman - Harvard Business Review


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"When someone has made a mistake or slipped up in some way, just listen to them. Don't interrupt, don't offer advice, don't say that it will be all right. And don't be afraid of silence. Just listen. And then, after some time, reflect back what you heard them say, what you feel they're feeling. That's it."


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My wife Eleanor and I were visiting some friends on a Saturday when their nine-year-old daughter, Dana*, came home. She was close to tears, barely holding it together.

"Oh sweetie," her mom said. "What happened at the swim meet?"

Dana is an excellent swimmer. She trains hard, arriving at swim practice by six most mornings and swimming some afternoons as well. And her efforts are rewarded; she often wins her events, scoring points for her swim team. It is clear she is very proud of these wins.

It isn't like that for all her endeavors. She struggles with some subjects in school, doing extra math homework to keep up with the other kids and getting special help with her reading. But she always works hard.

"I was disqualified," she told us. She swam the race well, but dove in a fraction of a second before the starting gun went off: a false start.

We were in the foyer of the house and she sat down on the bottom stair of the staircase, her swim bag still on her shoulder, staring into space, almost expressionless.

"Honey," her dad said, "there are a lot more swim meets in the season. You'll have other chances to win."

I told her, "The fact that you left the block prematurely means you were at your edge. You're trying not to waste a millisecond in hesitation. That's the right instinct. You misjudged the timing but that's OK. The more you do this, the better you'll get at it."

"Every swimmer on every team has been disqualified at some point," Eleanor said. "It's part of the sport."

"I'm sure your coach will help you practice your starts before the next meet," her mom said, "and you'll figure out exactly when to spring off the block so that you don't waste a second but you don't dive too early either. You'll get it."

Nothing we said seemed to have any impact on her. Nothing changed her expressionless stare. Nothing helped.

Then her grandmother Mimi walked over.

We were all standing over Dana, when Mimi moved through us and sat down next to her. She put her arm around Dana and just sat there quietly. Eventually, Dana leaned her head on Mimi's shoulder. After a few moments of silence Mimi kissed Dana's head and said, "I know how hard you work at this, honey. It's sad to get disqualified."

At that point, Dana began to cry. Mimi continued to sit there, with her arm around Dana, for several minutes, without saying anything.

Eventually Dana looked up at Mimi, wiped her tears, and said, simply, "Thanks Mimi." And I thought, every leader, every manager, every team member, should see this.

All of us except Mimi missed what Dana needed.

We tried to make her feel better by helping her see the advantage of failure, putting the defeat in context, teaching her to draw a lesson from it, and motivating her to work harder and get better so it doesn't happen again.

But she didn't need any of that. She already knew it. And if she didn't, she'd figure it out on her own. The thing she needed, the thing she couldn't give herself, the thing that Mimi reached out and gave her?

Empathy.

She needed to feel that she wasn't alone, that we all loved her and her failure didn't change that, She needed to know we understood how she was feeling and we had confidence that she would figure it out.

I wanted every leader, manager, and team member to see that, because the empathetic response to failure is not only the most compassionate, it's also the most productive.

Empathy communicates trust. And people perform best when they feel trusted.

When I sit with you in your mistake or failure without trying to change anything, I'm letting you know that you're okay, even when you don't perform. And, counter-intuitively, feeling okay about yourself — when you fail — makes you feel good enough to get up and try again.

Most of us miss that. Typically, when people fail, we blame them. Or teach them. Or try to make them feel better. All of which, paradoxically, makes them feel worse. It also prompts defensiveness as an act of self-preservation. (If I'm not okay after a failure, I'd better figure out how to frame this thing so it's not my failure.)

Our intentions are fine; we want the person to feel better, to learn, to avoid the mistake again. We want to protect our teams and our organizations.

But the learning — the avoidance of future failures — only comes once they feel okay about themselves after failing. And that feeling comes from empathy.

Thankfully, the expression of empathy is fairly simple. When someone has made a mistake or slipped up in some way, just listen to them. Don't interrupt, don't offer advice, don't say that it will be all right. And don't be afraid of silence. Just listen.

And then, after some time, reflect back what you heard them say, what you feel they're feeling. That's it.

I said simple, not easy. It's hard to just listen and reflect back. It's hard not to give advice or solve a problem. Hard, but worth the effort.

After some time, Dana got up from the stairs, we all had dinner, and then she went to watch some TV.

We were talking in the living room when she came in to say good night.

"How are you feeling?" I asked her.

"OK, I guess." She shrugged. "I'm still bummed."

I almost told her not to worry, that it would be OK, that she would feel better in the morning, that there was always the next race, that she had lots of time to practice.

Almost.

"I understand," I told her. "It's a bummer."


*Names and some details changed


Peter Bregman speaks, writes, and consults on leadership. He is the CEO of Bregman Partners, Inc., a global management consulting firm, and the author of Point B: A Short Guide To Leading a Big Change. Sign up to receive an email when he posts.





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http://dreamlearndobecome.blogspot.com This posting was made my Jim Jacobs, President & CEO of Jacobs Executive Advisors. Jim also serves as Leader of Jacobs Advisors' Insurance Practice.

Friday, November 12, 2010

Self-Acceptance: More Substance than Self-Esteem | Psychology Today

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Self-Acceptance: More Substance than Self-Esteem


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When people concoct their recipe for good emotional health, a generous portion of self-acceptance should be one of the main ingredients. It allows you to feel good about yourself, even with the flaws, mistakes and failures that we all have. And so, self- acceptance is essential to feeling good about just being you.

Don't confuse self-acceptance with self-esteem, which many would place at the top of their list of ingredients for emotional health. As I explained in my blog How Self-Esteem Can Get Us Down, self-esteem usually results from people's efforts to bolster their image of themselves through accomplishments and achievements. And there's nothing wrong with that, to a point. But when things don't go as planned (and the stress of today's economy has derailed many people's career and life goals), self-esteem takes a hit from which it can be difficult to recover.

In contrast, self-acceptance does not rely on achievements and accolades to build us up. A positive outlook on who you really are inside is essential to feeling good about yourself, no matter what is going on outside. Unfortunately, you cannot just will self-acceptance to happen. It has to grow. Psychologist Christopher Germer explains in his book the mindful path to self-compassion that the development of self-acceptance occurs in five stages.

Stage 1: Aversion
People instinctively respond to uncomfortable feelings with resistance, avoidance, or rumination (repetitively reviewing a problem to solve it).

Germer illustrated this with the story of a mother, Brenda, whose 9-year-old son died. She became so overwhelmed with her grief that she generally stayed in bed. When she did go out, she would observe people in a detached way-feeling like a foreigner.

Stage 2: Curiosity
When aversion doesn't work, people become curious about their problem. They want to learn more about it; even though they feel anxious.

To continue Germer's example, Brenda's grief became so overwhelming that she wished she could die. Then she "was seized with terror." She questioned what would happen to her surviving daughter and realized that she had to choose between giving in to her emotions and finding a way through.

Psychologist Todd Kashdan explored curiosity in depth in his book, Curious?. He explains that when people are curious about their problems, their anxiety about those problems decreases. Also, some people are generally more curious than others. While highly curious individuals feel anxious just like anyone else, they show more tolerance for distress while they pursue their interests. Curiosity motivates them to find and integrate meaning from experiences. Thus, highly curious people are oriented toward building a fulfilling life; leading them to thrive and feel a strong sense of well-being.

Stage 3: Tolerance
People in this stage endure their pain while still wishing it would disappear.

Once Brenda decided that she needed to live for the sake of her daughter, she found a way to tolerate her grief enough to function as a mother.

Stage 4: Allowing
As people's resistance erodes, they begin to allow their feelings to come and go. Rather than just acknowledging and tolerating feelings that overpower their defenses, they openly let their feelings flow through them.

With time, Brenda realized that she felt close to her son whenever she felt her grief. She also felt close to him at times when she was grateful for having known him. As she allowed for her different emotions, she was able to have a healthy relationship with (feel love for) her deceased son.

Stage 5: Friendship

People in this stage not only allow for their feelings, but they actually see value in them. It's not that they actively want to feel upset, but they can be grateful for the benefits that their situation and its related emotions bring to their life.

Many years later, Brenda became aware that she was not willing to get in touch with her grief. She realized that she could not fully enjoy the positive moments in life as long as she remained distant from the negative ones. As a result, she began to befriend her grief, allowing her to love fully without the fear of hurting.

It would be wonderful if we could all just start in stage five, but - of course - this is not realistic. We usually need to grow into it. By paying attention to your struggles, you can nurture self-acceptance. And, with self-acceptance, you can feel good about yourself no matter what happens in your life.


Dr. Leslie Becker-Phelps is a clinical psychologist in private practice and is on the medical staff at Somerset Medical Center in Somerville, NJ. She also writes a blog for WebMD (The Art of Relationships) and is the ‘Relationship' expert on WebMD's Relationships and Coping Community.





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http://dreamlearndobecome.blogspot.com This posting was made my Jim Jacobs, President & CEO of Jacobs Executive Advisors. Jim also serves as Leader of Jacobs Advisors' Insurance Practice.

Thursday, November 4, 2010

The thoughtLEADERS Blog: How You Can Stage a Workplace Bully Beatdown

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How You Can Stage a Workplace Bully Beatdown







We all hate bullies. I know I do. Ever since Ricky F. smashed my lunch every day of 5th grade I've hated them.

Then we get older and go to work. We think we've finally grown up and don't have to deal with bullies anymore. Then it happens - we find we're working with Ricky F. the bully (or even worse, the bully is our boss).

It's a painful and not-too-uncommon situation. So what can you do other than sit there and take it?

You can fight back. You can beat that bully up (figuratively - I am not advocating workplace violence as much as some people might even deserve a smack upside the head or a punch in the beak).

Beating up bullies has become acceptable behavior. Heck, there's even a great show on MTV2 called Bully Beatdown. My son and I love watching it (we even ran into the host, Mayhem, at LAX a coupla months ago and he is amazingly cool). The whole premise of the show is people submit bullies to the show, Mayhem invites the bully to come on and fight a mixed martial arts fighter, and invariably the bully is humbled. Awesome show.

So how can you stage your own bully beatdown at the office?

First you have to identify what kind of bully you're dealing with. Once you've done that, there are four techniques you can use to break the cycle of bullying. They are direct feedback, inclusion, professional smack-down, and frontal assault.

Bully Identification
Before beating up a bully, you have to know what you're dealing with. Bullying has its roots in insecurity. The bully feels in some way inadequate. To compensate for that, the bully chooses to push others down rather than facing and overcoming that insecurity.

Insecurities can range from physical ones (short, weird, bald) to intellectual ones (not too bright, promoted past the point of competence) to emotional ones (not loved, abused, ignored at home, excluded as a child). All these insecurities are sources of pain for the bully. The bully's desire to make the pain go away manifests itself as lashing out at others, causing pain in them, or asserting a position of dominance to compensate for feelings of weakness or helplessness. Yes, today's post is a bit of a psychology lesson.

Bullies can occupy several positions in our lives: coworker, customer, boss, supplier, etc. Depending on which role the bully occupies and the source of their insecurity, you'll need to utilize different techniques for dealing with them (assuming you want the bully to stop picking on you).

Take a moment to think of the bully. What's their role? How do they behave? What do you perceive that weakness to be that they're compensating for? Got it? Good. Let's solve your bully problem.

Technique 1: Direct Feedback

This approach can be used with all categories of bullies and for all reasons they act like bullies. It's the best place to start. Let the bully know you'd like to get some time on their calendar to talk about how things are going between the two of you and to address some concerns you have. Don't ambush them in a hallway with feedback - they'll get defensive then go on the attack. By setting aside time, you're enabling them to enter the conversation with an open mind.

In that meeting, use the classic feedback model. Describe the behavior you've observed from them, confirm they know the incident you're talking about, tell them how it made you feel, and offer how you'd like similar situations handled in the future.

Example: "Remember in last week's staff meeting when you told me 'Shut your cakehole!'? Yes? You remember. Okay. That made me feel like you didn't value my opinion and it made me not want to offer other thoughts because I was embarrassed in front of the team. When you did that and I didn't want to get yelled at again. In the future, I'd prefer you either let me offer my thoughts or if it's the wrong time for that, ask me to hold my suggestions until later."

Hopefully the bully is mature and professional enough to handle the feedback well and change behaviors.

Technique 2: Inclusion

Inclusion also works on all types of bullies. It can be very effective on bullies who act that way because they've been ridiculed or excluded in their past. They're likely bullying and attacking because they feel left out of the group.

Include them. When the team goes to lunch, invite the boss. If it's a coworker and the whole team is meeting about a project, invite them to join. Solicit their opinion on things. It's teamwork 101 people. The more you exclude the person because of their bad behavior, the more they'll behave badly. They're clearly not capable of reversing the negative dynamic. You as a leader need to take the first difficult steps in changing things. It's not hard. Invite them to join you.

When the bully feels included, they're less likely to lash out and punish you for hurting their feelings when you don't include them. Hopefully the more included they feel, the less they'll have a need to bully.

Technique 3: Professional Smack-down


This is a bit of tough love and requires you to assert yourself in a professional way. I don't recommend it for bosses or customers but it can be very helpful with coworkers, team members, or suppliers. Resort to this only after you've tried direct feedback.

When the bully acts up (either in private or in public), you'll need to be direct and forceful. "Ricky, I know you've told me to shut my cakehole. I'd prefer we elevate the conversation to a more professional level. Can we discuss the facts of the issue we're struggling with as a team rather than resorting to name calling?"

You've maintained your composure. You've defined what is and isn't acceptable behavior. You've focused everyone back on the real work to be done. Everyone in the room is probably silently cheering you on and supporting you. You've definitely earned some professionalism points with that one.

Technique 4: Frontal Assault

This is a last resort. Hopefully you've tried the other three techniques first. Unfortunately they clearly haven't worked. The bully continues to bully. Again, I don't recommend this one with bosses or customers unless you're cool with making a career-limiting move.

It'll go something like this:

Ricky: "Shut your cakehole Mike!"

Mike: "Hey Ricky, I'm sick of your bullying. It's completely ridiculous and unprofessional. I've asked you to stop acting like this before but apparently I speak at a frequency you can't hear. Your behavior is utterly unproductive. How about you shut *your* cakehole for a change so the rest of us can actually get some work done?"

Yep. Ugly. It'll be epic water cooler conversation. It will definitely end things one way or the other. Again, I don't recommend this one. It's clearly the nuclear option. That said, life is too short to be miserable at work and let bullies continue smashing your lunch.

How have you dealt with bullies in your work environment? We'd love to hear your suggestions and techniques.

- Mike Figliuolo at thoughtLEADERS, LLC





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http://dreamlearndobecome.blogspot.com This posting was made my Jim Jacobs, President & CEO of Jacobs Executive Advisors. Jim also serves as Leader of Jacobs Advisors' Insurance Practice.

Monday, October 25, 2010

The Four Capacities Every Great Leader Needs (and Very Few Have) | Fast Company

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BY FC Expert Blogger Tony SchwartzFri Oct 15, 2010

When I was a very young journalist, full of bravado and barely concealed insecurity, Ed Kosner, editor of Newsweek, hired me to do a job I wasn't sure I was capable of doing. Thrown into deep water, I had no choice but to swim. But I also knew he wouldn't let me drown. His confidence buoyed me.

Some years later, I was hired away by Arthur Gelb, the managing editor of The New York Times. This time, I was seduced by Gelb's contagious exuberance about being part of a noble fraternity committed to putting out the world's greatest newspaper.

Over the last dozen years, I've worked with scores of CEOs and senior executives to help them build more engaged, high performance cultures by energizing their employees. Along the way, I've landed on four key capacities that show up, to one degree or another, in the most inspiring leaders I've met.

1. Great leaders recognize strengths in us that we don't always yet fully see in ourselves.

This is precisely what Kosner did with me. He provided belief where I didn't yet have it, and I trusted his judgment more than my own. It's the Pygmalion effect: expectations become self-fulfilling.

Both positive and negative emotions feed on themselves. In the absence of Kosner's confidence, I simply wouldn't have assumed I was ready to write at that level.

Because he seemed so sure I could--he saw better than I did how my ambition and relentlessness would eventually help me prevail--I wasted little energy in corrosive worry and doubt.

Instead, I simply invested myself in getting better, day by day, step by step. Because we can achieve excellent in almost anything we practice with sufficient focus and intention, I did get better, which fed my own confidence and satisfaction, and my willingness to keep pushing myself.

2. Rather than simply trying to get more out of us, great leaders seek to understand and meet our needs, above all a compelling mission beyond our immediate self-interest, or theirs.

Great leaders understand that how they make people feel, day in and day out, has a profound influence on how they perform.

We each have a range of core needs--physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. Great leaders focus on helping their employees meet each of these needs, recognizing that it helps them to perform better and more sustainably.

Arthur Gelb helped my meet not just my emotional need to be valued, but also my spiritual need to be engaged in a mission bigger than my own success. Far too few leaders take the time to figure out what they truly stand for, beyond the bottom line, and why we should feel excited to work for them.

3. Great leaders take the time to clearly define what success looks like, and then empower and trust us to figure out the best way to achieve it.

One of our core needs is for self-expression. One of the most demoralizing and infantilizing experiences at work is to feel micromanaged.

The job of leaders is not to do the work of those they lead, but to serve as Chief Energy Officer -- to free and fuel us to bring the best of ourselves to work every day.

Part of that responsibility is defining, in the clearest possible way, what's expected of us--our concrete deliverables. This is a time-consuming and challenging process, and most leaders I've met do very little of it. When they do it effectively, the next step for leaders is to get out of the way.

That requires trusting that employees will figure out for themselves the best way to get their work done, and that even though they'll take wrong turns and make mistakes, they learn and grow stronger along the way.

4. The best of all leaders--a tiny fraction--have the capacity to embrace their own opposites, most notably vulnerability alongside strength, and confidence balanced by humility.

This capacity is uniquely powerful because all of us struggle, whether we're aware of it or not, with our self worth. We're each vulnerable to believing, at any given moment, that we're not good enough.

Great leaders don't feel the need to be right, or to be perfect, because they've learned to value themselves in spite of shortcomings they freely acknowledge. In turn, they bring this generous spirit to those they lead.

The more leaders make us feel valued, in spite of our imperfections, the less energy we will spend asserting, defending and restoring our value, and the more energy we have available to create value.

All four capacities are grounded in one overarching insight. Great leaders recognize that the best way to get the highest value is to give the highest value.

Reprinted from TonySchwartz.com

Tony Schwartz is President and CEO of The Energy Project, a company that helps individuals and organizations fuel energy, engagement, focus, and productivity by harnessing the science of high performance. Tony's most recent book, The Way We're Working Isn't Working: The Four Forgotten Needs that Energize Great Performance, was published in May 2010 and became an immediate The New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller. Follow him on Twitter @TonySchwartz.







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http://dreamlearndobecome.blogspot.com This posting was made my Jim Jacobs, President & CEO of Jacobs Executive Advisors. Jim also serves as Leader of Jacobs Advisors' Insurance Practice.

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

Power Play - Harvard Business Review

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Acquiring real clout—the kind that helps you get stuff done—requires bare-knuckle strategies.

Artwork: Rune Guneriussen, One Can Rely on the Prudence of His Decisions #04, 2008, c-print/aluminum, 84 x 124 cm

When Laura Esserman, MD, MBA, became the director of the Carol Franc Buck Breast Care Center at the University of California at San Francisco, in 1997, she had big plans—for both the center and medicine more generally. She hoped to boost the institution’s prominence and patient throughput by delivering integrated care in one attractive setting. Women would not have to go from place to place for the various diagnostic procedures and treatments they needed, enduring anxious, multiday delays as they waited for test results. A woman could arrive in the morning with a suspicious lump and leave at the end of the day with a treatment plan. To accelerate overall progress in treating breast cancer, Esserman wanted to increase the ease and speed of enrolling patients in clinical trials and to build an informatics system that would capture data about treatment outcomes from many sites. All of this represented a sensible strategy, and it has worked out well: The center now sees many times more patients than when Esserman took over; a new website has led to increased and easier enrollment in clinical trials; and the Athena project, which collects data from multiple UC medical centers, is under way.

None of this was easy to accomplish. For Laura Esserman, as for all executives working in interdependent systems full of strong-willed people with their own agendas, having a plan was only the first step. Although she was the center’s director, she had little say in many personnel decisions. Each of the departments she wanted to bring together had its own objectives and concerns. While she and her team were thinking about patients’ outcomes and service experiences, the CFO had to worry about the budget and bond ratings. The facility was housed in a state building, so even if Esserman raised private money to refurbish it, she would have to navigate myriad approval processes and constraints. In sum, Esserman was in a position similar to that of anyone who has tried to shepherd a cross-functional project, such as a new information system or product offering, through a large organization: She had lots of responsibility but virtually no line authority to compel anyone to do anything.

We could soft-pedal what is needed in such situations by talking about leadership skills and emotional intelligence—but why not tell it like it is? What Laura Esserman needed was power.

Strategies don’t implement themselves, of course. And not everyone in an organization agrees about what should be done: As the aphorism goes, “Where you stand depends on where you sit.” We all make decisions based on the information we have and the objectives we’re pursuing, and these things vary from position to position. Many leaders in both government and the private sector have remarked on large systems’ resistance to change. To succeed with her ambitious agenda, Esserman had to develop her ability to build and wield power. This proved at least as important as her considerable medical acumen.

Power is the focus of my teaching at Stanford—and not just power as a spectator sport. I aim to give my students the insights and tools that will enable them to bring about change, get things accomplished, and, not incidentally, further their careers. The learning occurs through studying powerful people, mining social science’s understanding of human behavior, and practicing. In this article, I will outline some of the most important principles involved. I urge you to use them as you seek to implement your own goals.

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Make Your Peace with Power

If you’re like many managers, you may already be uncomfortable with where this discussion is heading. As the organizational behavior expert Jo Silvester writes, politics is generally regarded as the “dark side” of workplace behavior. Researchers have described it, she notes, as “inherently divisive, stressful, and a cause of dissent and reduced performance.” Some evidence supports this view. A perception that politics predominates in a workplace tends to decrease job satisfaction, morale, and commitment and increase intentions to quit.

But empirical research shows just as clearly that being politically savvy and seeking power pay off. A study by David McClelland and David Burnham examined the correlations between managers’ primary motivations and their success. Some managers were motivated primarily by affiliation—they had a fundamental desire to be liked. Others were motivated by achievement—attaining goals and gaining personal recognition brought them satisfaction. Still others were interested in power—they wanted to be able to influence others. The managers in the third group were the most effective. (See “Power Is the Great Motivator,” HBR January 2003.) Consider also the research of Florida State University’s Gerald Ferris and his colleagues. They developed an 18-item Political Skill Inventory (PSI) and used it to evaluate school administrators and branch managers of a national financial services firm. The PSI proved to be a good predictor of success in both instances: The school administrators with high PSI scores were more likely to be considered effective leaders by those who reported to them, and the high-scoring branch managers typically had received favorable performance reviews.

Zia Yusuf is another case in point. At the software company SAP, he built and ran the corporate consulting team—an internal strategy group—and an initiative called the “SAP customer-focused ecosystem,” which linked suppliers, users, and developers. He had a successful career there even though he had no background in software or engineering, because he was skilled at what he calls organizational dynamics—the ability to get things done. As Yusuf says, you need two things to succeed: substantive business knowledge, so you know what to do, and organizational or political skills, so you can get it done.

The effective use of power is becoming increasingly important. Yes, we have flatter organizations and more cross-functional teams than we had in the past. But getting things done in a less-hierarchical system actually requires more influence. And as strategies become more complicated, the importance and difficulty of effective execution increase accordingly. When he ran SAP’s corporate consulting team, Zia Yusuf was able to prevail when recommending difficult strategic changes, such as reorganizations that would cause people and groups to lose power. In putting together the ecosystem function, he had to enlist cooperation across the company. How did he succeed? First, he brought in exceptionally talented people and held them to high standards. Second, he tried to defuse interpersonal tensions by focusing on data and analysis, and by ensuring that the analysis was unimpeachable. Third, he had an extraordinary ability not to become defensive or take things personally when others disagreed with him, which further reduced the emotional temperature of interactions.

Although power skills are important, many people don’t develop them. Understanding why is an important first step toward overcoming any reluctance you may have about power. (See the sidebar “Do You Shy Away from Power?”) And you might even come to relish building and using power, as one young woman I know did. Having long disdained “playing politics,” because she thought she wouldn’t like it or be good at it, she agreed to give it a try in a low-risk situation. She had joined a student committee that was organizing the events for a weekend when admitted but undecided applicants would visit her school. She decided to see if she could take control of the committee, and she devised ways to measure her success (for example, tracking the percentage of communications that flowed through her and how often decisions went her way). To her surprise, her little experiment not only worked but caused no resentment—the other committee members were glad someone else had stepped up. By the time the applicants arrived, she was enjoying the recognition and praise she was receiving and had concluded that she liked this power stuff after all.

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The Exercise of Power

What constitutes power? Simply put, the ability to have things your way. And having things your way when others’ best efforts are also required, and when those others may have their own ideas about what should be done, means that you need some basic forms of leverage.

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When push comes to shove, powerful people do several things to advance their agendas:

Mete out resources.

Whenever you have discretionary control over resources important to others—things like money, equipment, space, and information—you can use them to build your power. (Think of it as a new golden rule: The person with the gold gets to make the rules.) You can always find opportunities to help those whose support you want. Although the quid pro quo rarely needs to be explicit, helping people out evokes reciprocity—the almost universal principle that favors must be repaid. And your ability to garner support will become self-sustaining: People want to join the side that appears to be winning.

It’s important to remember that although money always provides leverage, it is not the only source of power. Access to information or influential people can be even more valuable. Consider the story of Klaus Schwab, who in the early 1970s was a Swiss-university professor with doctoral degrees in economics and engineering. He might well have confined himself to an academic career. Instead he organized what soon became the European Management Forum, a meeting of European business leaders who wanted to help their companies respond to America’s growing economic success. Observing the synergies at the meeting, he realized how valuable a global economic organization could be. If business and political leaders from around the world came together to discuss pressing economic and social issues, the benefits would go far beyond the exchange of ideas: Such a gathering would constitute a one-stop resource for the media and an arena for business deals. (As one person in the organization put it, “Contacts ultimately mean contracts.”) Thus was born the World Economic Forum, which now has more than 300 staff members who run meetings all over the world. Schwab sits at its head and has the ultimate say about who attends. If you don’t think that counts as having a powerful resource, you haven’t been to Davos.

Shape behavior through rewards and punishments.

In companies as in governments, people reward those who help them and punish those who stand in their way. Even the charming, gentle, and scrupulously honest John Gardner, the founder of Common Cause and a man of considerable distinction, recognized this reality. He once told me about his time as Lyndon Johnson’s secretary of Health, Education, and Welfare. It was a time when HEW’s programs were being significantly expanded under the Great Society, and not everyone was pleased. Gardner told people they would be firmly within their rights to oppose his agenda. But he wanted them to know there would be consequences if they did.

Here’s an example from the corporate sector. The chair of the compensation committee at a medical-device company took the CEO to task over a stagnant stock price. Sales had grown, but profit margins were lower than projected. The CEO had already been angling for a larger compensation package and, by engaging an expert negotiator as outside counsel, got the board of directors to acquiesce. With that victory, he gained the upper hand in the confrontation over the disappointing stock price. Soon his opponent had lost the chairmanship of the committee and his seat on the board. Coincidence? Possibly. But the other board members took note nonetheless.

People who effectively wield influence make it clear that you will get rewards if you help them and problems if you don’t. John Jacobs, a political reporter for the San Francisco Examiner and a columnist for the McClatchy newspapers, told me that when, as a young reporter, he wrote a negative article about the new speaker of the state assembly, Willie Brown, he was made aware that individual reporters could be barred from the floor of the assembly—which would make their jobs much more difficult, of course. When Jacobs wrote a favorable piece, he received a gift basket. He noted that in such situations, being granted or denied access had subtle—or maybe not so subtle—effects on how he and other reporters viewed the political figures they were covering.

Advance on multiple fronts.

Laura Esserman’s plans met resistance in many quarters, but they never came to a halt. When faced with obstacles on one front, she shifted to another. During a period of little progress at UC San Francisco, she focused on building a scientific and clinical reputation and forging relationships at the national level, working with, for instance, the head of informatics at the National Cancer Institute. She knew she could later deploy her national visibility and ties to local advantage. She also continued her medical practice, thus adding to her cadre of loyal patients and ex-patients, some of whom had great wealth and connections. Even when most thwarted in her efforts to make systemic change, she kept advancing, one advocate at a time.

It’s a long way from breast cancer in San Francisco to cricket in India, but the story of Lalit Modi also illustrates the importance of chipping away on many fronts. The son of a wealthy Indian family, Modi studied marketing at Duke. After his return home, he signed a deal with Disney to sell licensed merchandise in India. Then he came up with the idea of holding an Indian cricket tournament that would feature foreign players—part of his dream of creating a new Indian league modeled along those lines. He even managed to persuade ESPN to give the tournament airtime. However, the Board of Control for Cricket in India (BCCI), the wealthiest and most powerful cricket organization in the world, opposed his plan. Rather than pound away at that immovable body, Modi pursued his agenda through every other channel available to him, building relationships, including one with Sharad Pawar, an influential Indian politician who was himself intensely interested in cricket. After a decade, Modi was able to join forces with Pawar to seize power in the BCCI and form the Indian Premier League he had envisioned.

Make the first move.

The particular way that Pawar and Modi gained control of the BCCI illustrates another point: A surprise move can catch opponents off guard and secure victory before they even know what’s happening. In 2005 the BCCI’s president, Ranbir Singh Mahendra—a man backed by Jagmohan Dalmiya, the former BCCI president and the power behind the scenes—was up for reelection. Modi, coming out of nowhere as a leader of the Rajasthan Cricket Association, hired numerous lawyers to pursue allegations of corruption and mismanagement against Dalmiya and ran an overtly political campaign to oust Mahendra. According to the sportswriter Tom Rubython, “Dalmiya could not believe the effort being put in by his opponents. He was caught totally unawares.” Pawar won the election; Modi became the new vice-president and quickly procured the television rights and merchandise sponsorships that would show people that siding with him was very much in their economic interest.

This kind of dynamic plays out all the time in struggles between boards of directors and CEOs. If a CEO moves first to rid the board of his opponents, he can usually save his job. If board members organize while he is distracted by other matters or on vacation, they can often muster the votes to unseat him before he can mount a counterattack. Don’t wait if you see a power struggle coming. While you hesitate, others are mobilizing the support to beat you.

Co-opt antagonists.

Sometimes you can win over opponents by making them part of your team or giving them a stake in the system. You might be surprised at how thoroughly you can redirect their energies. Some years ago a group of women faculty members, staffers, and students at the University of Illinois began pressuring the school because women there were paid less than men in comparable jobs and with similar skills. The administration’s response was brilliant: It established a Committee on the Status of Women, gave the committee some stationery, a budget, and a modest amount of office space—legitimacy and a few resources—and told it to study the facts and offer recommendations. This effectively co-opted the opposition, making its members feel they were part of the university, not outsiders. As their estrangement diminished, so did the stridency of their demands; soon they were almost as concerned about the committee’s budget for the following year as they were about the status of female employees on campus.

Remove rivals—nicely, if possible.

Another way to deal with opponents is to show them the door gracefully. All the better if you can achieve a “strategic outplacement,” getting a rival a more attractive job somewhere else. Not only will opponents handled this way no longer be underfoot—they will also be grateful to you. When Willie Brown became the speaker of the California Assembly, after a tough battle against his fellow Democrat Howard Berman, he used this tactic. Following a decennial redistricting, he helped Berman and two other rivals in the assembly, Mel Levine and Rick Lehman, win election to the U.S. House of Representatives. Brown’s biographer James Richardson describes how Brown helped other Democratic assembly rivals win seats in the state senate. By rewarding his opponents rather than exacting retribution, Brown helped solidify his power.

Helping adversaries move to another organization where they’ll be out of your way may not be the first thing you think about doing, but it ought to be high on the list. Remember, though: It’s important to let people save face. That’s why boards and bosses often say nice things about those being shown the door. Money, of course, also makes an exit easier. At a large human-resources consulting company that chose its leader by a vote of the partners, one partner who had built a large practice and was quite visible in the business media backed the losing candidate. The winner called the partner into his office and told him he had to leave, his value to the firm notwithstanding. To ease the pain and ensure that he would go quietly, the new head gave him enough severance that he didn’t have to work for a year. If you make it easy for your opponents to depart, they will do so without a battle. If you neglect this consideration, so opponents have nothing left to lose, they will fight you on their way out, with no inhibitions or constraints.

Don’t draw unnecessary fire.

As you think about how to implement your strategies, you need to continually ask yourself, “What would victory look like? If I could win that battle, what would I want the win to encompass?” Otherwise it’s easy to lose sight of your priorities and get diverted by other battles, which can cause unnecessary problems.

Laura Esserman was pushing a large agenda and needed all the support she could get. Yet she agreed to testify unfavorably about the UCSF administration at a hearing on the ill-advised merger, subsequently unwound, between the UCSF and Stanford hospitals. (The state senator chairing the hearing was a friend of hers.) As she entered the hearing room, Mike Bishop, then the chancellor of the UCSF campus, recognized her and commented on the fact that she was testifying. Esserman now says that appearing before the panel was not her smartest move. The hospital merger was not on her critical path to change breast cancer treatment, and testifying against her own administration was hardly likely to advance her strategic goals.

When Zia Yusuf, the SAP senior executive, could see that a decision in a meeting was going against him and his group, he typically did not dig in his heels and fight. Although that could be exasperating to his team, Yusuf knew what he was doing. As he says, “It is important to live to fight another day.” Because he did not push too hard against his bosses or peers, he reduced the emotional tenor of meetings; and by avoiding antagonism, he often got the decisions he wanted, even if they took some time.

Being careful not to create unnecessary opposition or turmoil requires an important skill: focus. You must have a clear understanding of where you are going and the critical steps along the way. When you encounter opposition on this path, you need to react. But you’ll just waste your time, and possibly acquire gratuitous problems, if you get involved with issues or individuals who are connected only peripherally to you and your agenda.

Use the personal touch.

The late Jack Valenti headed the Motion Picture Association of America—generally considered one of the most effective lobbying groups—for more than three decades. During the struggle over the Digital Millennium Copyright Act, to take just one example, he outmaneuvered the high-tech industry, which favored fewer restrictions on sharing content than the association did. The key to his success is nicely summarized in the title of a 2001 New Yorker profile of him: The Personal Touch.” Valenti was unfailingly polite to congressional staffers, assistants, and secretaries—the gatekeepers for legislators and the aides who drafted legislation. Instead of communicating through e-mail, he made a point of meeting with people in person or, failing that, calling them up. He returned phone calls promptly, and he was a consummate flatterer. Valenti understood well the importance of building personal ties with those who could help him advance the movie industry’s agenda.

Persist.

Laura Esserman likes to talk about scientists who refused to give up in the face of setbacks, and she attributes her own success to the same dogged persistence. Those who have seen her in action describe her as a force of nature. I heard as much from Richard Blum, who is an investment banker and money manager, the former chair of the University of California’s Board of Regents, and the husband of California senator Dianne Feinstein—a powerful, influential man. Seeing him at the launch of the Athena project, Esserman’s data collection initiative, I asked him why he’d chosen to turn up. “I have learned that when either my wife or Laura asks me to do something, the best answer is ‘Yes, dear,’” he told me. “Because even if you say no, sooner or later you are going to do it anyway. You might as well save yourself the time and aggravation and agree at the beginning.”

Persistence is like water eroding a rock: It wears the opposition down. And if nothing else, staying in the game keeps open the possibility that the situation will shift to your advantage. Your opponents may eventually make mistakes or take new jobs or retire. When the environment changes, so can the balance of power.

Make important relationships work—no matter what.

In 1998, when Gary Loveman left a position as an untenured associate professor at Harvard Business School to become the chief operating officer of the casino company Harrah’s, many insiders resented his arrival, believing others were better qualified for the job. One of those potentially difficult people was the chief financial officer. Knowing how critical the CFO’s knowledge and support would be, not just politically but also for meeting the objectives that resulted in Loveman’s becoming CEO in 2003, Loveman made his relationship with the CFO a priority. He stopped by his office frequently, kept him informed about what he was doing and why, and involved him in decisions and meetings—in short, did everything he could to create a productive relationship. Loveman gives this advice: Once you reach a certain point in your career, you simply have to make critical relationships work. Your feelings, or others’ feelings about you, don’t matter. Put aside resentments, jealousies, anger, and anything else that might hinder you from getting the job done.

Make the vision compelling.

It’s easier to exercise power when you are aligned with a compelling, socially valuable objective. Certainly this was true for Laura Esserman. Opposing her efforts could be construed as turning one’s back on breast cancer victims and their families. Rudy Crew, who wielded power as the superintendent of schools in Sacramento, Tacoma, New York City, and Miami–Dade County, invariably talked about the hundreds of thousands of children left behind by current policies and how his initiatives would help them. Robert Moses, who exercised vast power in New York for decades, began his career as a parks commissioner in the 1920s. He learned from early political battles that, as he put it, “as long as you’re on the side of the parks, you’re on the side of the angels.”

Similarly, power struggles inside companies seldom seem to revolve around blatant self-interest. At the moment of crisis and decision, clever combatants typically invoke shareholders’ interests, as in “It would be in the shareholders’ interests to have a new CEO.” Gary Loveman often notes that no one, including himself, owns his or her position; everyone works for the shareholders, who have the right to put the most effective person in the job. Loveman is sincere, and he has certainly delivered for Harrah’s shareholders—the company’s stock rose from about $16 a share when he arrived to about $90 a share when the company went private in one of the last major buyouts before the debt market crash. But his talk about shareholder sovereignty is also a way to frame his power in a socially acceptable, even desirable, fashion. The lesson: Place your personal objectives in a broader context that compels others to support you.

So, welcome to the real world. It may not be the world we want, but it’s the world we have. You won’t get far, and neither will your strategic plans, if you can’t build and use power. Notwithstanding all the talk about the death of the hierarchy and the strength of peer networks, job status is still often a zero-sum game. Most organizations have only one CEO, most professional-services firms only one managing partner, most school systems only one superintendent, most countries only one prime minister or president. With more and more well-qualified people competing for each step on the organizational ladder, the rivalry is intense; and as the number of management positions shrinks, it will become only more so.

Some of the people competing for advancement or standing in the way of your organization’s agenda will bend the rules of fair play or ignore them entirely. Don’t bother complaining about this or wishing things were different. Part of your job is to know how to prevail in the political battles you will face. You will triumph if you understand the principles of power—and if you are willing to use them.

Another Reason to Love Power

Having power can help you live a longer, healthier life.

When the epidemiologist Michael Marmot first examined the mortality from heart disease among British civil servants, he noticed an interesting fact: The lower the employee’s civil-service grade, the higher the age-adjusted mortality risk. Of course, many covariates could affect this result. However, Marmot and his colleagues found that only about a quarter of the observed variation in death rates could be accounted for by rank-related differences in such things as smoking, cholesterol, and blood pressure. Follow-up studies measuring the degree of control people had over their jobs found it to be a good predictor of the incidence of and mortality from heart disease five or more years later. In fact, job control and status accounted for more of the variation in mortality from heart disease than physiological factors.

These findings shouldn’t really surprise you. Not being able to control your environment produces feelings of helplessness and stress, and study after study has demonstrated that stress can harm your health. So it follows that being in a position of low power and status is literally hazardous to your health, whereas having power and the control that comes with it could prolong your life.

Do You Shy Away from Power?

You need power to push any important agenda through. So what’s been keeping you from assembling your power base? And when a situation has called for a power play, what’s given you pause? If you’re like many of the students and executives I’ve counseled, three big barriers stand in your way.

Barrier 1: The Belief That the World Is a Just Place

The pervasiveness of the belief in a just world—social psychologists call it the “just world hypothesis”—was first described by Melvin Lerner decades ago. He argued that people want to think the world is predictable and comprehensible and therefore potentially controllable. Once they happily persuade themselves of that, they embrace the corollary: If they do a good job and behave appropriately, things will take care of themselves. And when they see behavior they consider inappropriate or self-aggrandizing or to be “pushing the envelope,” most people believe they have nothing to learn from observing it: Those engaging in such behavior may be successful at the moment, but in the end they will be brought down. However, believing in a just world makes people less powerful in two important ways. First, it limits their willingness to learn from all situations and all people, even those they don’t like or respect. Second, it anesthetizes them to the need to proactively build a power base. People who believe the world is a fair place typically fail to see the land mines that can damage their careers.

Barrier 2: The Leadership Literature

Most books by well-known executives and many lectures and courses about leadership should be stamped “Caution: This material can be hazardous to your organizational survival.” That’s because many leaders touting their careers as models to be emulated gloss over the power plays they used to get to the top. The teaching on leadership is filled with prescriptions about following your inner compass, being truthful, letting your feelings show, being modest and self-effacing, not behaving in bullying or abusive ways—in short, prescriptions that reflect how people wish those in positions of power behaved. There is no doubt that the world would be a much better place if people were always authentic, modest, truthful, and concerned about others, instead of simply pursuing their own aims. But wishing that’s how people behaved won’t make it so.

Barrier 3: Your Delicate Self-Esteem

People are often their own worst enemies, and not just in the arena of power. This is the case in part because people like to maintain a positive self-image. Paradoxically, one of the chief ways people preserve their self-esteem is by putting obstacles in their own way (if not preemptively surrendering). The body of research on this phenomenon, known as “self-handicapping,” is immense. But the logic is quite simple. People want to feel good about themselves and their abilities. Obviously, any experience of failure puts their self-esteem at risk. However, if they intentionally do things that could diminish their performance, they can view disappointing outcomes as not reflective of their true abilities. For instance, told that a test is highly diagnostic of intellectual ability, some people will choose not to study the relevant material or to practice, thereby decreasing their performance but at the same time providing an excuse that doesn’t implicate their natural ability. Similarly, if people don’t actively seek power, the fact that they don’t obtain it doesn’t have to be seen as a personal failure.

The Exercise of Power

1. Mete out resources.

2. Shape behavior through rewards and punishments.

3. Advance on multiple fronts.

4. Make the first move.

5. Co-opt antagonists.

6. Remove rivals—nicely, if possible.

7. Don’t draw unnecessary fire.

8. Use the personal touch.

9. Persist.

10. Make important relationships work—no matter what.

11. Make the vision compelling.

Copyright © 2010 Harvard Business School Publishing Corporation. All rights reserved.

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Jeffrey Pfeffer () is the Thomas D. Dee II Professor of Organizational Behavior at Stanford University’s Graduate School of Business in California. His latest book, Power: Why Some People Have It—And Others Don’t, is forthcoming from HarperCollins.

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Friday, April 2, 2010

Men aged 60 have highest self esteem - Telegraph

Men aged 60 have highest self esteem - Telegraph


UK Telegraph


Men aged 60 have highest self esteem


Rich married men who are approaching retirement have the highest self esteem, scientists discover.


Researchers found that confidence is lowest amongst young adults, but increases throughout adulthood, peaking at the age of sixty.


However, after this age, retirement and bad health cause a decline in self regard, researchers said.


The study looked at 3,617 American men and women aged 25 to 104 between 1986 and 2002, and rated how their self esteem changed during this period.


Women were found to be less confident than men, only catching up in confidence when they got to their 80s or 90s.


Those with better education, income, health and employment status were also likely to report higher levels of self esteem, especially as they age, the study found.


And those in happy marriages also had higher levels of self esteem.


Study leader Ulrich Orth said: "Specifically, we found that people who have higher incomes and better health in later life tend to maintain their self-esteem as they age.


“We cannot know for certain that more wealth and better health directly lead to higher self-esteem, but it does appear to be linked in some way.


“For example, it is possible that wealth and health are related to feeling more independent and better able to contribute to one's family and society, which in turn bolsters self-esteem.


“Self-esteem is related to better health, less criminal behavior, lower levels of depression and, overall, greater success in life.


“Therefore, it's important to learn more about how the average person's self-esteem changes over time."


The study, published by the American Psychological Association, asked participants to rate their agreement with statements such as “I take a positive attitude towards myself”, or “At times I think I am no good at all” to measure their level of confidence.


They were also asked about their ethnic background, education, income, work status, and relationship satisfaction, as well as whether they had experienced stressful events, such as losing a parent or child.


Black people and white people were found to have similar self esteem until they reached old age, when black people were more likely to lose confidence.


People in happy relationships had higher levels of self esteem, but also experienced the same drop in confidence when they passed sixty as those who were in unhappy relationships.


Study co-author Kali Trzesniewski said: “Although they enter old age with higher self-esteem and continue to have higher self-esteem as they age, they decline in self-esteem to the same extent as people in unhappy relationships.


"Thus, being in a happy relationship does not protect a person against the decline in self-esteem that typically occurs in old age."


The researchers claim that that the peak in confidence around the age of sixty was due to feelings of security and stability.


Researcher Richard Robins said: “Midlife is a time of highly stable work, family and romantic relationships. People increasingly occupy positions of power and status, which might promote feelings of self-esteem.


“In contrast, older adults may be experiencing a change in roles such as an empty nest, retirement and obsolete work skills in addition to declining health.”


But he added that thanks to medical advances, people may remain healthier longer, and be able to work for longer as a result.


He said: “It is possible that the decline in self-esteem might occur later in life for baby boomers.”

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