Ten Simple Tricks To Remembering Names - Forbes.com

Ten Simple Tricks To Remembering Names - Forbes.com

Ten Simple Tricks To Remembering Names

Helen Coster, 04.20.10, 11:02 AM EDT

Is it Joe or Jim? Sally or Susan? Here's some help.

Top Tips: 10 Simple Tricks To Remembering Names

Few situations will make you cringe more than standing next to someone you've met several times and drawing a blank on his or her name.

Plenty of business deals and romantic rendezvous have been foiled because someone failed to recall the right name at the right time. In the Web age e-mail and social networks offer safe harbor; being able to use someone's name (and pronounce it correctly) in a face-to-face situation can set you apart.

"Everyone struggles with remembering names," says Jill Spiegel, author of How to Talk to Anyone About Anything. "When we first meet someone we're taking in so much visually and emotionally. They say their name, but it's up there floating in our heads." Making matters worse are all the single-syllable American male names, like Chris, Mike or Tom, that tend to blend together.

Top Tips: 10 Simple Tricks To Remembering Names

There are tricks to remembering names. Master even one or two and you'll be in good shape.

Benjamin Levy, author of Remember Every Name Every Time, advocates the FACE method: "focus, ask, comment and employ." Focus: Lock in on the person's face. Ask: Inquire which version he prefers ("Is it Ted or Theodore?"). Comment: Say something about the name and cross-reference it in your head ("My college roommate's name was Ted.") Employ: Put the name to use--"Nice seeing you, Ted"--to drive it home.

For a full list of simple name-recognition tactics, check out our slideshow. For a quick handful, read on:

Repeat, Repeat, Repeat. The most surefire strategy is to repeat the person's name--both in your head, and out loud--as soon as possible after you've been introduced. Occasionally use the person's name in conversation. "Pleasure to meet you, Bob," or "Bob, so good to see you." Don't overdo it, of course, but don't worry that Bob will recoil, either. He'd rather you remember his name than not.

Find The Trigger. Try to associate names with things people tell you about themselves (careers, hobbies) that will trigger the sound or association of the name in your mind. Fred likes to fish, Margarita runs a bar--you get the idea. "You have to search in the moment for something familiar," says Spiegel. "It's a simple trick, but it just sticks."

Word Play. Let the words do the work for you. Mnemonic devices (Dale works in sales) work nicely, as does alliteration (Joann from Jersey).

Speak Up. Embarrassing as it seems, don't be afraid to ask someone to repeat his or her name. Start out with a compliment, such as "I've had so much fun talking with you, and I've completely forgotten your name." If you realize you've blanked on a name a few seconds after introduction, just say: "I'm sorry, I missed your name."

Once you've gotten over the hurdle of remembering someone's name, you might face the added dilemma of not knowing whether to address the person by a first or last name. Spiegel recommends starting with the person's last name followed by a flattering comment and a casual introduction, such as "Mrs. Smith, I'm such an admirer of yours. My name is Susan." The person just might respond, "Nice to meet you. I'm Mary."

Problem solved.

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http://dreamlearndobecome.blogspot.com This posting was made my Jim Jacobs, President & CEO of Jacobs Executive Advisors. Jim also serves as Leader of Jacobs Advisors' Insurance Practice.